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		<title>9 Ways that the Fear of Conflict Kills and Destroys</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Oct 2017 09:30:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Chery Gegelman</dc:creator>
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				<description><![CDATA[Some people and organizations hate conflict. They fear: Discomfort Disagreements Judgmental words Explosive behavior Relationships struggling or ending Then they allow that fear to drive their results! Some feel victimized by the past and hold so tightly to those emotions that they experience less joy and less productivity. Others have rumbling fires of anger burning [&#8230;]]]></description>
					<content:encoded><![CDATA[<img width="640" height="452" src="https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/pair-707506_640.jpg" class="featured-image wp-post-image" alt="Fearing Conflict" srcset="https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/pair-707506_640.jpg 640w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/pair-707506_640-300x212.jpg 300w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/pair-707506_640-518x366.jpg 518w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/pair-707506_640-82x58.jpg 82w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/pair-707506_640-600x424.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px" /><p>Some people and <a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidroth/2013/07/29/supporting-healthy-conflict-in-the-workplace/#7defb37c1822">organizations</a> hate conflict.</p>
<p><strong>They fear:</strong></p>
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<li>Discomfort</li>
<li>Disagreements</li>
<li>Judgmental words</li>
<li>Explosive behavior</li>
<li>Relationships struggling or ending</li>
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<p><strong>Then they allow that fear to drive their r</strong><strong>esults!</strong></p>
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<li>Some feel victimized by the past and hold so tightly to those emotions that they experience less joy and less productivity.</li>
<li>Others have rumbling fires of anger burning about present issues. Occasionally smoke seeps out as they vent to those closest to them. As those fires continue to grow everyone is at risk of their <a href="https://consultgiana.com/volcanic-anger-lookout-world-there-she-blows/">eventual eruption</a>.</li>
<li>Some are unwilling to learn an alternative way of dealing with conflict.</li>
<li>Others don’t realize there is an alternative.</li>
<li>And none realize that their choice to <em>wait for the other party to change</em>, is spreading growth-eating bacteria throughout their organization.</li>
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							Unresolved conflict does not go away. <p style="text-align:right;font-weight:bold;font-size:20px;color:#3eaadd;margin:5px 0" class="getnoticed_shareable_cite">&mdash;DAVID ROTH </p>
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<h3><strong>9 Ways that the fear of conflict kills and destroys:</strong></h3>
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<li>The ability to consider the needs of others is replaced with “self” first</li>
<li>Comfort zones become more important than the mission</li>
<li>Small problems are unaddressed and become big ones</li>
<li>New opportunities are avoided</li>
<li>Collaboration decreases</li>
<li>Energy, engagement and hope fade</li>
<li>Growth declines</li>
<li>People leave</li>
<li>It becomes harder and harder to simply maintain</li>
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							Fear of conflict is a growth-eating bacteria that kills and destroys.
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<h3>Learning how to engage in healthy conflict:</h3>
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<li>Builds confidence while increasing compassion</li>
<li>Keeps the focus on the mission</li>
<li>Limits the growth of problems</li>
<li>Unleashes opportunities</li>
<li>Fosters collaboration</li>
<li>Generates energy, engagement and hope</li>
<li>Fuels growth</li>
<li>Entices people</li>
<li>Multiplies possibilities and creates a stronger future</li>
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<blockquote><p>While no single conversation is guaranteed to change the trajectory of a career, a business, a marriage, or a life, <strong>any single conversation can</strong>.  -Susan Scott</p></blockquote>
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<p><strong>Want to learn how to have healthy conflict?   Check out the resources below:</strong></p>
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<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0787976385?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=gianaconsu0b-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;linkCode=xm2&amp;creativeASIN=0787976385">Silos, Politics and Turf Wars</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1626564310?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=gianaconsu0b-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;linkCode=xm2&amp;creativeASIN=1626564310">The Anatomy of Peace Book</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0801064856?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=gianaconsu0b-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;linkCode=xm2&amp;creativeASIN=0801064856">Peacemakers Study</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425193373?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=gianaconsu0b-20&amp;camp=1789&amp;linkCode=xm2&amp;creativeASIN=0425193373">Fierce Conversations</a></li>
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<p><strong>Want to experience healthy and productive conflict?</strong></p>
<p><a href="https://consultgiana.com/?attachment_id=6319#main" rel="attachment wp-att-6319"><img class="size-medium wp-image-6319 alignleft" src="https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-300x200.jpg" alt="Healthy Conflict" width="300" height="200" srcset="https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-300x200.jpg 300w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-768x512.jpg 768w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-760x507.jpg 760w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-518x345.jpg 518w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-250x166.jpg 250w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-82x55.jpg 82w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/Danah-Event-54-600x400.jpg 600w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></a>A <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PT_W2uUKd7g">Conversation Safari</a> is a workshop that merges the spirit and adventure of a real safari with an opportunity to dialogue with and learn from those that think differently than you do. &#8230;Helping you turn unaligned agendas &amp; conflict into an adventure that fuels problem solving.</p>
<p>Conversation Safari&#8217;s are designed to help participants BALANCE the use of their <strong>brains</strong> AND their <strong>hearts</strong>. Resulting a dialogue that is fueled by <strong>critical thinking</strong> AND <strong>compassion</strong>.</p>
<p>Attendees leave with increased understanding, energy and hope.</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>Contact Chery to learn more about Conversation Safari’s. </strong> <a href="https://consultgiana.com/not-thinking-really-safer-easier/1-2/#main" rel="attachment wp-att-5470"><img class="aligncenter wp-image-5470 size-full" src="https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/1.jpg" alt="Chery Gegelman Keynotes and Workshops" width="600" height="200" srcset="https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/1.jpg 600w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/1-300x100.jpg 300w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/1-518x173.jpg 518w, https://consultgiana.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/07/1-82x27.jpg 82w" sizes="(max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px" /></a></p>
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