I’ve been working with a group of pre and early teens and we’ve been talking about perceptions and reality. In our last meeting, I asked if they have ever greeted someone and not been greeted in return. Emphatically – yes!
So I broke them up into small groups and asked them to come up with a list of at least 15 reasons why someone they greeted would not respond.
At first they listed things like this:
- They hate me
- They are mean
- They are rude
- They are a bully
- They are racist
It took awhile for them to start coming up with reasons like this:
Viktor Frankl survived a concentration camp and said this…
Forces beyond your control can take away everything you possess except one thing, your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.
Post Charlottesville conflict continues to fill the airwaves and cyberspace, encouraging chaos and division.
…So how have you been responding? Are you:
- Denying that this conflict is impacting real lives, workplaces and communities?
- Pushing your perspective on others?
- Sitting in silence and worrying about it?
- Studying the issues, and then carrying your candle into the darkness, determined to be a part of the solution?
IF YOU SEEK TO BE A PART OF THE SOLUTION:
The process below will help you fully leverage your freedom, while strategically using both your mind and your heart.
Bridge Builders listen to the perspectives of others, instead of fearing their knowledge, experiences and convictions.
With vision, respect and wisdom they connect:
- Front lines and executives
- Teams across silos
- Customers and the organizations that serve them
I recently spoke to a group of people and shared information that challenged their thinking and their behavior. Afterwards several people approached with questions and comments.
One woman had received the message and wanted help in taking the next step.
Another woman expressed her gratitude for the message. She admitted that she had always struggled in one particular area – but until today, she hadn’t realized it. Now she was actively processing the new information and beginning to visualize what a change in her behavior would look like.
Then a man stepped forward that was actively rejecting the message.