I live more than 7,000 miles from my home, in an expat compound on the other side of the world.
Shortly after we moved here, one of my neighbors was venting about a conflict he had with another neighbor. In the midst of his anger he said, “I don’t know how the compound can let people live here that don’t have any integrity.”
Hit the pause button.
Replay… “I don’t know how the compound can let people live here that don’t have any integrity.”
Have you ever struggled to figure out how to leverage a strength that is coming across as a weakness?
If you’ve ever watched popcorn pop, you’ll understand one of mine.
One little kernel heats up, flies into the air and explodes into light fluffy happiness. POP!
Then a couple more kernels join the fun! POP! POP!
Then a few more! POP! POP! POP! POP! POP!
Soon the party is in full swing, as the noise, chaos, and joy increase rapidly! POP! Pop! POP! Pop! POP! POP!!! POP!!!!
That’s me and…
For many years I sat in meetings:
- Excited by the challenge of problem solving.
- Fueled by the opportunity to be creative and to collaborate.
And frustrated because I could not clearly articulate what was happening inside my brain.
I was recently helping my 9-year-old neighbor with her homework. She’d had a long day at school, and we’d been studying for an hour and her brain was tired! As I pulled out the last book we needed to study she said, “I can’t do this!”
Immediately I interrupted, “Oh honey, don’t say that! Because…
She immediately plugged both of her ears and said, “I can’t do this!”
A little over a week ago my husband and I rode motorcycle to a city that is about an hour away from where we are living.
It’s a city we visited for the first time nearly one year ago. A city that provided such a powerful visual of how leadership or the lack of it, impacts our world that I wrote about it right after our first visit, and have continued to talk about it throughout the year…
Read More About That Visit Here
- A lack of a vision compared to a shared vision.
- Chaos compared to order.
- Anxiety compared to peace.
- Darkness compared to light.
This time we were in awe again:
A series of events has me thinking about rules.
First I thought about the Rule MAKERS I know.
We’ll make this rule because it will make MY job easier!
Then I thought about the Rule BREAKERS I know.
I follow ALL the rules… EXCEPT
Then I thought about the Rule FAKERS I know.
This rule is here just for our protection – I don’t care if it is followed or not, but if the authorities ever come, I can show them our rules.
And then I started to wonder if the makers, breakers and fakers ever considered these questions before they made a rule, broke a rule or pretended to have a rule.
Who are the rules for?