We’ve all been there…
When our boss hires a friend:
- Then the friend leverages that relationship to charm their way out of responsibility and accountability.
When laws are created for the good of all:
- But certain groups are consistently exempt from the law.
When an executive relocates:
Inconsistency is unfair and confusing. It creates stress, erodes trust, increases frustration, wears people out, decreases ownership and limits potential.
On the flip side of that, fairness:
Some people and organizations hate conflict.
- Judgmental words
- Explosive behavior
- Relationships struggling or ending
Then they allow that fear to drive their results!
- Some feel victimized by the past and hold so tightly to those emotions that they experience less joy and less productivity.
- Others have rumbling fires of anger burning about present issues. Occasionally smoke seeps out as they vent to those closest to them. As those fires continue to grow everyone is at risk of their eventual eruption.
- Some are unwilling to learn an alternative way of dealing with conflict.
- Others don’t realize there is an alternative.
- And none realize that their choice to wait for the other party to change, is spreading growth-eating bacteria throughout their organization.
On Monday morning women from 9 different nations connected in an online Conversation Safari to explore the question… Are you being manipulated?
During that discussion, we talked about different kinds of manipulation.
- Unintentional manipulation – like a guilt trip to get someone to do what you want him or her to do.
- Intentional manipulation – when someone intentionally distorts facts for personal gain.
- Intentional AND strategic manipulation – when someone strategically distorts facts, and creates disruption to accomplish a specific goal.
Most people on the call believe that intentional AND strategic manipulation happens more often than we realize.
A few days later I stumbled into a real life example of their point.
Imagine being a new Office Manager for a small company. The first day on the job your new boss, a.k.a the owner, meets you at the office. He stays there for the morning and then leaves.
The other employees work afternoons and weekends. So you’re in a new role, in a new industry. You’re alone at the office, answering phones, and trying to create a weekend work schedule for people you have never met, with less than 4 hours of “training.”
Logic says that you should not be surprised when that first busy weekend goes south. But your new boss loses it!
He’s in his mid forties, tall, long legged and thin. Now his string bean legs are stomping around the office, while he is hollering, blaming and yes – he even throws a pen across the room in frustration. (Not at you – thankfully!) But wow! Just wow!
If his behavior weren’t so immature and shocking – you would have doubled over in laughter at how crazy he looked!
In the heat of the moment you could decide that you have no desire to work for this Boss Baby. And you could walk out the door, put in your notice, begin updating your resume…
Or you could make some uncommon choices:
In business, families, faith-based organizations and communities I’ve continuously witnessed the power of these words:
Together WE STAND. Divided WE FALL.
Prior to moving to Saudi Arabia, my focus on divisive current events was growing. …As was my determination to find ways to bring people together to find solutions.
So I began sharing this dream with others: