Replace The Dreaded Debate with the Adventure of a “Conversation Safari”

Last fall we took an African Safari. Prior to leaving, several friends, raved about their safari experiences, claiming that it was their most epic vacation, and numero uno on a list of several destinations.

When I asked why… One friend said it was because of the animals.

Interesting. I LOVE animals, but I’ve been to the zoo and and wildlife parks. How could simply being in Africa create an epic vacation?

Digging into Disagreement

The good, the bad, the ugly... And the opportunity!

This post is the second post in a series on the challenges and opportunities that come from disagreement.  The first post was titled, What if…  YOU disagree with someone?  –Do you lob word grenades, judge and flee, or engage and learn?

This post is  a guest post from Dan Forbes and filled with additional feedback from people who attended the Lead with Giants Tweet Chat on this topic a week ago.

Dan Forbes is a Certified Executive & Leadership Coach, Speaker, Facilitator, Workshop Leader, and founder of Lead With Giants, LLC. He helps individuals, teams, and companies elevate their Conversational Intelligence® (C-IQ®) to build trust, effectiveness, performance, and results.

Dan V. ForbesWhat If We Disagree? Seventy-five leaders gathered in the #LeadWithGiants tweet chat on Twitter to explore this topic. I’m the tweet chat host and Chery Gegelman was my guest host.

During the course of the chat we tweeted out 10 questions for participants to answer. Our audience included educators, coaches, consultants, business owners, and others who love the topic of leadership. It resulted in over 5 million tweet impressions. 

Q1 – What if we disagree?

What if… YOU disagree with someone?

Do you lob word grenades, judge and flee, or engage and learn?

Everyone comes from a different life experience and has witnessed, researched, or considered things you haven’t.  -REALLY!

But far too often we are too busy, proud, judgmental, and afraid to dive in and try to discover what those things are.

This morning I watched this unfold on a friend’s Facebook feed:

Breaking The Cycle of Organization Chaos & Decline

And Growing!!!

We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. -Albert Einstein

Below are three CONTROLLABLE reasons organizations spin in cycles of chaos and decline.

1.  No Clear and Motivating Vision Uniting Everyone in a Common Purpose:

This issue frequently allows and even encourages people and departments to think more about their own needs than they do about the mission and success of the organization as a whole.

If you’ve ever been caught in a tug of war between titled leaders or required do something that benefits one person or one team, even if it increases time, cost, confusion and customer aggravation… You know WHY a SHARED VISION Matters!

 2.  A Lack of Communication:

Even after spending millions of dollars to create new programs…  Many organizations lack strategy and fail to communicate what they are doing and why they are doing it both internally and externally.

Others communicate it, once or twice to a limited audience and expect the change to be understood, embraced, and supported.

Both failures limit the potential success of the program, waste energy and resources.

Often resulting in”the baby” being tossed out with the bathwater.

3.  A Mix of Ego and Historical Complacency:

 …Constructs internal barriers that prevent titled leaders from listening and responding to employees and problem solving with peers.

These barriers silence truth about opportunities in the organization and limit the ability to overcome challenges and grow. Many times missed opportunities include reducing risk, increasing efficiency or maximizing results without added expense.

If YOUR BEHAVIOR emphasizes that:

  • You are the smartest person in the room.
  • Your ego is more important than the business.
  • The way you have “always done something” will work forever…

The people you lead will reflect your behavior and collectively YOU are fueling dysfunction and decline.


Here’s the GOOD NEWS:

YOU can be a part of the solution! 

Purposely park your ego.

Let go of historical turf-wars for the good of your team, the organization and the customer.

Strategically engage and empower EVERYONE  to make suggestions and take ownership of the vision.

Download our Free Resource about Leading Change Here

I M A G I N E…

  • Knocking down walls that are limiting your success.
  • Accessing more funding because of strong partnerships.
  • Having more knowledge and support for your programs because of relationships.
  • Increasing education, quality of life, economic development and workforce development in your community…

Got questions about how to get started?

Email Chery Here