I’ve been working with a group of pre and early teens and we’ve been talking about perceptions and reality. In our last meeting, I asked if they have ever greeted someone and not been greeted in return. Emphatically – yes!
So I broke them up into small groups and asked them to come up with a list of at least 15 reasons why someone they greeted would not respond.
At first they listed things like this:
- They hate me
- They are mean
- They are rude
- They are a bully
- They are racist
It took awhile for them to start coming up with reasons like this:
When my husband said we were asked to move to a giant sandbox on the other side of the world my stomach churned so hard I had to sit down.
How was this possible? We said we would go ANYWHERE in the world except – THERE! Scenes from movies and the news melded with my own fears and questions were fired off so rapidly my husband could not reply.
A “yes” wasn’t possible if I could not change my thinking:
- From the losses to the possible gains.
- From the challenges to the possible opportunities.
- From fear to faith.
I was leading a small team in a culturally diverse city in the U.S. when two of my employees asked why all the titled leaders on our leadership team were white.
I was raised in a part of the country that was not culturally diverse, today – nearly a decade after their question 89% of the population in my home state is white and 95% of the county that surrounded the town I grew up in was white. As a result, it was a question I didn’t see coming and one I did not have a good answer for.
Yesterday I felt a strong urge to clearly articulate what Character-Based Leadership means to me.
As I wrote it I thought of:
- Leaders that create beautiful symphonies by unleashing the differences and strengths of others.
- Leader that inspire us all to lead at a higher level.
- Leadership decisions that make my blood boil.
- People I am currently serving and people I’ve served.
- Times I’ve led well, and times I’ve failed.
- All that I am and all that I hope to be…
“Skin in the game” emphasizes that not one of us is as smart as all of us.
“Skin in the game” separates the watchers from the joiners & the whiners from the winners.
“Skin in the game” unleashes: Creativity, Innovation, Joy, Synergy & RESULTS!
- Communities don’t need more critics. They need models.
- Companies don’t need more problems. They need solutions.
- Our world doesn’t need bench-warmers. It needs players.
Titled Leaders: Are you hogging the spotlight on the field or giving your employees opportunities to shine?
Employees & Community Members: Are you on the sidelines or on the field? We need YOU – IN THE GAME!