Several years ago an executive told me that if I knew about a problem that was unsolved, it didn’t matter how hard I wanted to be a part of the solution,… I was a part of the problem until it was solved.
Ouch. That was a hard pill to swallow.
Recently I was reminded of that pill, as someone contacted me and asked for my help.
Once upon a time, I worked with someone that had some great skills even though they made a lot of choices that I didn’t like, respect or trust. (This person was smart, witty, and could be really fun, but repeatedly lied and manipulated and bullied others to get what they wanted.)
Years after we worked together, that person sent me an invitation to connect on LinkedIn.
- If some time had not passed, I would have declined it instantly and been filled with tons of negative emotions as I did it.
Years ago I read a wonderful post by Ted Coine titled, Dear CEO: Who tells you when your baby is ugly?
The post resonated loudly, because as an employee and as a customer I have wondered…
Over the past 41 days, I’ve asked that question at an increasingly high level…
Today I visited with a neighbor that was emphasizing how much the company her husband works for values integrity.
As she shared her thoughts I imagined the difference between the list of core values that hang on walls and collect dust, and those that are used to guide decisions.
She went on to share a story about a compound that the company had decided they would not continue to use for their expat’s housing because of extraordinary cost.
The first thing the company did was to decide that anyone that was already living there could stay.
- (A choice that will cost the company a few extra dollars but prevents unnecessary stress on families. And keeps their workers more focused on their jobs.)
The second decision came when a new executive moved to the area and insisted on living in that compound.
It’s nearly July 1st. We have nearly reached the half mark of 2014. So it’s a good time to evaluate.
Is it based on who the world thinks you are?
- Your title
- Your net worth
- The number of awards on your shelf
- The neighborhood you live in
- Where you went to school
- Your nationality
- Or how the world values the efforts of your children or your spouse?
Or on the things you possess?
- The kind of car you drive
- The number of name brands you wear
- How many of the latest gadgets you own
Is it measured by lives?