In the 90’s I read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People for the first time.
I immediately made my own infographic of the four quadrants and added the quotes below and put them in my purse and in my planner.
[Tweet ““Be a light, not a judge.” S.R. Covey”]
[Tweet “”Be a model, not a critic.” S.R. Covey”]
[Tweet “”Be part of the solution, not part of the problem.” S.R. Covey”]
Do you know any person or organization that is in the midst of their most significant struggle – ever?
Would it help you get through the struggle if you knew that it was necessary to unleash your greatest strength?
There is a pattern throughout history that fills me with so much hope that it almost makes me wish for a big struggle…
My friend, Kate Nasser is doing a beautiful job of leveraging her #PeopleSkills platform to shine a light on workplace bullying.
She recently challenged my friend and co-author Susan Mazza to share her Letter To A Bully on her blog.
In Susan’s post she asked, [Tweet “If you wrote a letter to a bully, what would you say?”]
It did not take me long to craft my response to Susan because I’ve spent so much time pondering this issue – long before I called it what it is. (Anyone that tears down others so that they will feel better about themselves is a bully.) Below are links to three of my previous posts.
1. I was a bully, and it changed my life.
2. Like you, I’ve seen great leaders and I’ve seen workplace bullying that reminds me of the playground. It makes my stomach churn and my heart ache.
This was my answer to Susan…
As expats we live in a secure compound with high walls, inside those walls we have grass, trees, flowers, beauty and order.
Many local families live in their own high walled “compounds” with their extended families. And although I have never been behind those walls I have heard of their gardens.
Outside of all of our walls is the city we all share. Most of the city is full of trash, partially developed buildings, blowing sand, broken sidewalks – if there are sidewalks at all; narrow streets and tiny parking lots that don’t accommodate all of the cars, and random unmatched street lights that don’t begin to illuminate the dark.
A few weeks ago I met with some local women and they encouraged me to check out a city that is 101 kilometers (62.75 miles) away.
This past weekend, my husband and I rode there on our Harley with several other couples.
Before we left one of the women commented about how much she likes the city we were driving to. When I asked why she said, “it is just like the movies at night, it is all lit up…”
So as we drove into this neighboring city my eyes were wide open…
As I looked specifically for light sources I noticed several things:
Several years ago a mentor shared his business plan with me. In part of it he wrote something he called a STAND. When I asked what that was, he said it was knowing what you stand for before you are faced with a situation and have to make a choice.
I’ve shared part of his leadership wisdom and how it impacted me in this previous Smart Blog Post: Why Leaders Need To Practice Compassionate Accountability
For the past several weeks I’ve been focused on another part of his STAND: “[Tweet “I choose to be Consistent, Fair, and Explainable in all that I do.”]
These are some of the reasons those words are resonating with me again:
I’ve been studying the impact of parents that have a favorite child that is treated differently than the others. It’s an ugly situation for everyone. ….Even the favored child.
I’ve been thinking of times I’ve witnessed a boss becoming close friends with some of their employees and how that broke down trust with other employees. (Even if both the boss and the employee were holding each other to a higher level of accountability, the perception of unfairness was still there.)
I know an executive that is struggling because he makes hard fast rules that sound powerful in his office, however when the rules are challenged or violated that executive avoids confrontation at all costs.
